so I have a non important question
Posted 03-21-2009 at 04:23 PM by U2Girl416
It's fairly inconsequential (ok it's really nothing to get upset about) but the curiosity is what is getting to me. Why would a friend come all the way from NY to Chicago to attend my wedding (flying on a plane for the first time in her life and incurring hotel and food expenses), tell us that she'd see us in May for her wedding yet we didn't get an invite? I'm not upset upset, but I really am wondering. 
It's not like I can come out and ask...might be a tad uncomfortable.
ETA: my husband and I are supposed to have dinner with her and her fiance next month when I go home to visit my parents. Wondering now if this will be weird too. Naturally I'd want to ask her how the last of the planning is going.
It's not like I can come out and ask...might be a tad uncomfortable.ETA: my husband and I are supposed to have dinner with her and her fiance next month when I go home to visit my parents. Wondering now if this will be weird too. Naturally I'd want to ask her how the last of the planning is going.
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Is she having a super-small wedding? I've known that to happen sometimes, where people don't want more than 20-30 people at their wedding and so even some very good friends get cut?Posted 03-21-2009 at 06:34 PM by anitram
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I was thinking that too, but thought maybe she would have said something awhile back. I'm not sure what the size of the wedding is. honestly, I respect whatever decision she made, I know what a pain it was to have to decide who to invite, who not to. but still curious nonetheless.Posted 03-21-2009 at 06:41 PM by U2Girl416 -
Don't wedding invites go out one month prior??? either way, if you're friends, just ask her, I'm sure she wouldn't be offende...Posted 03-21-2009 at 08:21 PM by Mr. BAW - due to technology aka Facebook, I saw her status that she mailed them out several weeks ago
hmm maybe I will ask, if it's going to make me wonder so much.Posted 03-21-2009 at 09:07 PM by U2Girl416 -
That is a little weird that your friend took the time to travel to your wedding but then didn't send you an invite. I'd send her a little note asking what's up.
I think people get really weird when it comes to weddings. I've been invited to a few over the years that have made go because I didn't think I was close enough to the person to be invited. I felt like it was one of those situations of asking for a gift. I was even asked to be a bridesmaid in a wedding of someone I hardly knew. She made it a point of being my best buddy in the months before the wedding to have it appear to all that we were close friends. I saw her once after the wedding and never again. 
Then there's other weddings I thought I'd be invited and was not for whatever reason. I looked at that as at least I didn't have to waste money on a gift or even travel for someone that didn't that I was important enough in their life to send an invite.Posted 03-21-2009 at 10:23 PM by arw
