My Mom is going to be pissed!

FitzChivalry · 03-19-2009, 08:21 PM

My Uncle (by marriage) called this evening to leave a message for my Mom. It appears that My Aunt and Uncle put my Grandmother (who has Alzheimer's) in a convalescent home without telling my Mom or any of her other brothers and sisters.

Oh yeah, did I mention the kicker? They did this to my Grandmother TWO MONTHS AGO!

And my Aunt couldn't even call her own sister to tell her this, she had her husband make the call.

So now, when my Mom gets home from working her 4th 10 1/2 hour day in a row, I get to be the lucky one to tell her this news.

I think it warrants being said again: my Aunt and Uncle

JCOSTER · 03-19-2009, 09:14 PM

Good luck to you!

I have one better....10 years ago my mom with everyones agreement put my grandmother in a nursing home, she had dementia. Ofcourse the nursing home costs alot of money and would take all my grandmothers savings. Savings that we thought she had. My aunt was aloud to write checks for my grandmother....and apparently herself. She and my cousing stole around $45,000 out of her checking account. I can say that the day my grandmother died, they were on one side and we were on the other. We no longer speak to the other side of that family.

Sorry you have to go through that its horrible.

kafrun · 03-20-2009, 12:39 AM

Oh lovely

Classless of them

s to you

Galeongirl · 03-20-2009, 02:43 AM

That's real class there.

I'm sorry to hear this!

MooMoo! · 03-20-2009, 05:58 AM

Damn.

dsmith2904 · 03-20-2009, 10:16 AM

Lila64 · 03-20-2009, 10:24 AM

indra · 03-20-2009, 10:45 AM

Ouch. Not a comfortable situation.

Justin24 · 03-20-2009, 11:47 AM

Wow that sucks. Family sometimes you love em sometimes you don't. Sorry fitz that you will be the bearer of bad news.

Pearl · 03-20-2009, 12:57 PM

It seems everyone has someone they can't believe they are related to.

Sorry for what you and your family will be going through, Fitz.

BonosBaby12 · 03-20-2009, 01:50 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by Pearl

It seems everyone has someone they can't believe they are related to.

Got that right! One of my aunt's a long time ago had her father,my grandfather,grant her power of attorney. Right after that she put him in a nursing home. To complete the deal she sold the family home for a $1 to one of the sisters. My grandfather had stated that if my aunt wanted the house she could use her money to buy it.

Sorry to hear about your situation Fitz

That is pretty messed up with what your aunt and uncle did

MooMoo! · 03-20-2009, 02:00 PM

Quote:

Originally Posted by BonosBaby12

Got that right! One of my aunt's a long time ago had her father,my grandfather,grant her power of attorney. Right after that she put him in a nursing home. To complete the deal she sold the family home for a $1 to one of the sisters. My grandfather had stated that if my aunt wanted the house she could use her money to buy it.

Sorry to hear about your situation Fitz

That is pretty messed up with what your aunt and uncle did

Thats just sly.

zuropa_fit · 03-20-2009, 02:16 PM

Oh, Fitz. What a bummer, to say the least. I'm sorry.

When I saw this thread title, I thought maybe you'd gotten a tattoo.

lauramullen · 03-20-2009, 02:19 PM

I hope everything works out for you.

I have family that I don't really talk to. My grandmother had alzheimer's bad and my cousins used to take her money, so when my dad went to put her in a home they got mad. They came to my brother's wedding, but weren't very talkative to my family. I think they came for free food. They didn't come to the ceremony

FitzChivalry · 03-20-2009, 04:23 PM

Yup. Mom was pissed.

She was especially ticked at the fact that her sister isn't the one who called, and that my Uncle said the reason they didn't tell my Grandma's other children is that they knew everyone would have a different opinion as to what to do with my Grandma.

Uh, DUH! Of course everyone is going to have their own opinion and the outcome is going to have to be a COMPROMISE! Grandma is ALL of the brother and sister's Mom.

I just can't even imagine ever putting my Mom in a home without discussing it with my sister and then NOT telling my sister for TWO MONTHS where her own mother is living! That's just freakin' crazy!

(And to be fair to my own Mom, my Mom has called my Aunt's house within the past two months asking to talk to her Mom (my Grandma), but my Aunt either doesn't answer or says Grandma is busy or sleeping or something. So it's not like my Mom is distant or neglectful or what's going on with her Mom.)

03-19-2009, 08:21 PM	#1
FitzChivalry Rock n' Roll Doggie VIP PASS Premium Silver Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: At the bottom of the ocean, in the deepest sea Posts: 5,025 Local Time: 09:53 PM	My Mom is going to be pissed! My Uncle (by marriage) called this evening to leave a message for my Mom. It appears that My Aunt and Uncle put my Grandmother (who has Alzheimer's) in a convalescent home without telling my Mom or any of her other brothers and sisters. Oh yeah, did I mention the kicker? They did this to my Grandmother TWO MONTHS AGO! And my Aunt couldn't even call her own sister to tell her this, she had her husband make the call. So now, when my Mom gets home from working her 4th 10 1/2 hour day in a row, I get to be the lucky one to tell her this news. I think it warrants being said again: my Aunt and Uncle __________________ *Why are those not in my mouth right now . . . but mostly Adam!*

03-19-2009, 09:14 PM	#2
JCOSTER Get On Your Boots!!! Premium Gold Member Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: It's a very, very mad world. Posts: 14,767 Local Time: 12:53 AM	Good luck to you! I have one better....10 years ago my mom with everyones agreement put my grandmother in a nursing home, she had dementia. Ofcourse the nursing home costs alot of money and would take all my grandmothers savings. Savings that we thought she had. My aunt was aloud to write checks for my grandmother....and apparently herself. She and my cousing stole around $45,000 out of her checking account. I can say that the day my grandmother died, they were on one side and we were on the other. We no longer speak to the other side of that family. Sorry you have to go through that its horrible. __________________ The songs in your head are now on my mind You put me on pause I try to rewind, love, and replay

03-20-2009, 12:39 AM	#3
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indra eeky, who is very naughty Premium Gold Member Join Date: Jan 2004 Posts: 11,972 Local Time: 12:53 AM	Ouch. Not a comfortable situation. __________________ i will twirl if i want to

03-20-2009, 11:47 AM	#9
Justin24 Rock n' Roll Doggie VIP PASS Join Date: Oct 2005 Location: San Mateo Posts: 6,291 Local Time: 08:53 PM	Wow that sucks. Family sometimes you love em sometimes you don't. Sorry fitz that you will be the bearer of bad news.

03-20-2009, 12:57 PM	#10
Pearl Refugee Premium Silver Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: NYC Posts: 2,286 Local Time: 12:53 AM	It seems everyone has someone they can't believe they are related to. Sorry for what you and your family will be going through, Fitz.

03-20-2009, 02:16 PM	#13
zuropa_fit Blue Crack Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: on Zooey's U2 Disco Bus Posts: 15,585 Local Time: 09:53 PM	Oh, Fitz. What a bummer, to say the least. I'm sorry. When I saw this thread title, I thought maybe you'd gotten a tattoo.

03-20-2009, 02:19 PM	#14
lauramullen Jersey Girl who loves U2 Premium Silver Member Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: In my own little world Posts: 32,194 Local Time: 12:53 AM	I hope everything works out for you. I have family that I don't really talk to. My grandmother had alzheimer's bad and my cousins used to take her money, so when my dad went to put her in a home they got mad. They came to my brother's wedding, but weren't very talkative to my family. I think they came for free food. They didn't come to the ceremony __________________ 2010 Concert Schedule: March 5th- Muse- NYC/ MSG May 26th &29th- Bon Jovi- East Rutherford/ New Stadium June 6 &7th- U2- Anaheim/ Angel Stadium June 12th- U2- Denver/ Invesco Field June 16th- U2- Oakland/Oakland Coliseum July 1st- Dave Matthews Band- Philly/ S. Bank Center July12th- U2- Philly/Lincoln Financial Field July 16th- Dave Matthews Band- NYC/Citi Field July 19th- U2- East Rutherford/New Stadium

03-20-2009, 04:23 PM	#15
FitzChivalry Rock n' Roll Doggie VIP PASS Premium Silver Member Join Date: Aug 2004 Location: At the bottom of the ocean, in the deepest sea Posts: 5,025 Local Time: 09:53 PM	Yup. Mom was pissed. She was especially ticked at the fact that her sister isn't the one who called, and that my Uncle said the reason they didn't tell my Grandma's other children is that they knew everyone would have a different opinion as to what to do with my Grandma. Uh, DUH! Of course everyone is going to have their own opinion and the outcome is going to have to be a COMPROMISE! Grandma is ALL of the brother and sister's Mom. I just can't even imagine ever putting my Mom in a home without discussing it with my sister and then NOT telling my sister for TWO MONTHS where her own mother is living! That's just freakin' crazy! (And to be fair to my own Mom, my Mom has called my Aunt's house within the past two months asking to talk to her Mom (my Grandma), but my Aunt either doesn't answer or says Grandma is busy or sleeping or something. So it's not like my Mom is distant or neglectful or what's going on with her Mom.) __________________ *Why are those not in my mouth right now . . . but mostly Adam!*

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