Uncle getting married again....

adamswildhoney · 10-05-2009, 10:22 AM

My aunt has been dead less then 5wks and my uncle is already getting married again on Feb 14th 2010. He's been dating the woman he's going to marry since a wk after my aunt died. My aunt & uncle were married for 37yrs. Am I wrong in feeling disgusted over this?

Zoots · 10-05-2009, 10:27 AM

I'm sorry I laughed when I saw that thread title combined with the smiley icon.

No you are not at all wrong in feeling disgusted about this. Sorry about your loss but how did she die? Was it a long time coming or was it sudden? Still doesn't excuse his behavior anyway. But what can you do? It's his life.

nicv · 10-05-2009, 10:42 AM

You are not wrong at all to feel disgusted. Any chance you talked to him about it, get his take?

It almost tops my father marrying a woman my age and having babies at 64.

I just don't get it sometimes.

I am also very sorry about the loss of your aunt.

adamswildhoney · 10-05-2009, 10:51 AM

I know I can't do anything about it and that it is his life, that's the part that makes me sick.

It was semi sudden semi unexpected. She had been on various painkillers and meds for different things so we were all worried that something might happen. But then one night she went to bed and when my uncle went into go to bed he realized that she was blue and not breathing. She had overmedicated then had a seizure on top of that.

nicv, I can understand because my uncle is 65 and I don't know how old the lady is so I might end up having some more cousins. Another uncle of mine over 50 I believe actually married a girl younger then me. After being college sweethearts with my aunt and having 4 kids.

Galeongirl · 10-05-2009, 12:07 PM

Ok this is rather strange. I think you are right to feel sick about this, he hasn't even had time to mourn properly yet.

Pearl · 10-05-2009, 12:48 PM

No, you are right to feel what you are feeling. This situation with your uncle does smell fishy.

How do your parents feel about this?

adamswildhoney · 10-05-2009, 02:17 PM

everyone is just weirded out by it. It so isn't the nature I have known my uncle to have in all my life.

Angela Harlem · 10-05-2009, 06:45 PM

Perhaps your aunt and uncle weren't as happy as everyone thought, and he was staying by her out of duty? The heart will always do it's own thing, and the head might get angry. but what can we do? Their marriage might have ended, for all intents and purposes, a long while ago.
I'm sorry for your loss.

martha · 10-05-2009, 08:54 PM

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Originally Posted by adamswildhoney

everyone is just weirded out by it. It so isn't the nature I have known my uncle to have in all my life.

Maybe his grief has overwhelmed him.

Sorry, hon.

zuropa_fit · 10-06-2009, 10:51 PM

Holy Hamlet, Batman! That's no good. I'm sorry. and you're totally NOT in the wrong for feeling creeped out.

adamswildhoney · 10-07-2009, 10:06 AM

Yep! I think their marriage might of been over long before she died, but mostly think that he's avoiding letting himself grieve and he's afraid about being alone.

Also I should say that the ink on the papers for his divorce from his first wife were barely dry before he married my aunt. It's just weird to think of him with another woman right now, I knew it might happen eventually but not so soon.

Thanks everyone!

Purplereign · 10-07-2009, 11:40 AM

what a horrible thing for you all to have to go through - methinks he may have issues with being alone

I'm so sorry to hear of your Aunts' passing

and I hope things are settling down for you and your family

MsPurrl · 10-09-2009, 04:18 PM

Was your aunt ill for a long time before she died? If so, he may have done his grieving with her before she passed. In any case, I am sorry for your loss--always rough stuff.

Bonoa · 10-15-2009, 05:00 PM

I'm sorry about your aunt!

I would also feel really strange about the situation. Maybe you should talk to your parents about it first. I maybe not say this but I can't stop thinking that your uncle had an affair with that woman long before your aunt passed away.

Kiki · 10-16-2009, 10:50 PM

I'd be pretty weirded out by it too. I am really sorry about your Aunt

It doesn't excuse his......reactions(?), is maybe what I'm trying to say, but because he is older; some of him may be doing this only because he doesnt know how to be alone. Like I said, it doesn't excuse it or make sense, but he's probably pretty terrified too.

10-05-2009, 10:22 AM	#1
adamswildhoney ONE love, blood, life Join Date: May 2002 Location: Somewhere in SoCal Posts: 10,320 Local Time: 01:05 AM	Uncle getting married again.... My aunt has been dead less then 5wks and my uncle is already getting married again on Feb 14th 2010. He's been dating the woman he's going to marry since a wk after my aunt died. My aunt & uncle were married for 37yrs. Am I wrong in feeling disgusted over this?

10-05-2009, 06:45 PM	#8
Angela Harlem Jesus Online Premium Gold Member Join Date: Dec 1969 Location: a glass castle Posts: 29,927 Local Time: 07:05 PM	Perhaps your aunt and uncle weren't as happy as everyone thought, and he was staying by her out of duty? The heart will always do it's own thing, and the head might get angry. but what can we do? Their marriage might have ended, for all intents and purposes, a long while ago. I'm sorry for your loss. __________________

10-07-2009, 11:40 AM	#12
Purplereign ONE love, blood, life Premium Gold Member Join Date: Jun 2007 Location: where I can Breathe . . . and it's Magnificent Posts: 13,536 Local Time: 07:05 PM	what a horrible thing for you all to have to go through - methinks he may have issues with being alone I'm so sorry to hear of your Aunts' passing and I hope things are settling down for you and your family __________________ *'You might just as well say, that "I breathe when I sleep" is the same thing as "I sleep when I breathe"!'*

10-09-2009, 04:18 PM	#13
MsPurrl ONE love, blood, life Premium Gold Member Join Date: Apr 2004 Location: The Heartland (Indiana, USA) Posts: 13,771 Local Time: 04:05 AM	Was your aunt ill for a long time before she died? If so, he may have done his grieving with her before she passed. In any case, I am sorry for your loss--always rough stuff. __________________

10-16-2009, 10:50 PM	#15
Kiki Mrs. Scott Weiland Premium Silver Member Join Date: Oct 2001 Location: mainly in my fantasy land.....ooooo how I wish it were reality Posts: 2,606 Local Time: 03:05 AM	I'd be pretty weirded out by it too. I am really sorry about your Aunt It doesn't excuse his......reactions(?), is maybe what I'm trying to say, but because he is older; some of him may be doing this only because he doesnt know how to be alone. Like I said, it doesn't excuse it or make sense, but he's probably pretty terrified too. __________________

10-05-2009, 10:27 AM	#2
Zoots Blue Crack Supplier Join Date: Aug 2002 Location: the great beyond Posts: 36,847 Local Time: 10:05 AM	I'm sorry I laughed when I saw that thread title combined with the smiley icon. No you are not at all wrong in feeling disgusted about this. Sorry about your loss but how did she die? Was it a long time coming or was it sudden? Still doesn't excuse his behavior anyway. But what can you do? It's his life.

10-05-2009, 10:42 AM	#3
nicv So She Woke Up Premium Gold Member Join Date: Feb 2008 Location: 16th of June Posts: 2,428 Local Time: 12:05 AM	You are not wrong at all to feel disgusted. Any chance you talked to him about it, get his take? It almost tops my father marrying a woman my age and having babies at 64. I just don't get it sometimes. I am also very sorry about the loss of your aunt.

10-05-2009, 10:51 AM	#4
adamswildhoney ONE love, blood, life Join Date: May 2002 Location: Somewhere in SoCal Posts: 10,320 Local Time: 01:05 AM	I know I can't do anything about it and that it is his life, that's the part that makes me sick. It was semi sudden semi unexpected. She had been on various painkillers and meds for different things so we were all worried that something might happen. But then one night she went to bed and when my uncle went into go to bed he realized that she was blue and not breathing. She had overmedicated then had a seizure on top of that. nicv, I can understand because my uncle is 65 and I don't know how old the lady is so I might end up having some more cousins. Another uncle of mine over 50 I believe actually married a girl younger then me. After being college sweethearts with my aunt and having 4 kids.

10-05-2009, 12:48 PM	#6
Pearl Refugee Premium Silver Member Join Date: Dec 2003 Location: NYC Posts: 2,286 Local Time: 04:05 AM	No, you are right to feel what you are feeling. This situation with your uncle does smell fishy. How do your parents feel about this?

10-05-2009, 02:17 PM	#7
adamswildhoney ONE love, blood, life Join Date: May 2002 Location: Somewhere in SoCal Posts: 10,320 Local Time: 01:05 AM	everyone is just weirded out by it. It so isn't the nature I have known my uncle to have in all my life.

10-06-2009, 10:51 PM	#10
zuropa_fit Blue Crack Addict Join Date: Sep 2007 Location: on Zooey's U2 Disco Bus Posts: 15,580 Local Time: 01:05 AM	Holy Hamlet, Batman! That's no good. I'm sorry. and you're totally NOT in the wrong for feeling creeped out.

10-07-2009, 10:06 AM	#11
adamswildhoney ONE love, blood, life Join Date: May 2002 Location: Somewhere in SoCal Posts: 10,320 Local Time: 01:05 AM	Yep! I think their marriage might of been over long before she died, but mostly think that he's avoiding letting himself grieve and he's afraid about being alone. Also I should say that the ink on the papers for his divorce from his first wife were barely dry before he married my aunt. It's just weird to think of him with another woman right now, I knew it might happen eventually but not so soon. Thanks everyone!

10-15-2009, 05:00 PM	#14
Bonoa War Child Join Date: Mar 2002 Location: off to Nether Nether land Posts: 789 Local Time: 09:05 AM	I'm sorry about your aunt! I would also feel really strange about the situation. Maybe you should talk to your parents about it first. I maybe not say this but I can't stop thinking that your uncle had an affair with that woman long before your aunt passed away.

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